You’re Not Too Much… You’re Tired of Holding It All Together
10/26/2025
You’ve always been the one who holds it all together.
You show up, stay steady, and make sure everyone else is okay…even when you’re running on empty.
You don’t mean to hide it; it’s just what you do. People see you as strong, capable, dependable.
But lately, it’s starting to feel like being “the strong one” has become your whole identity.
You’re not too much. You’re just tired.
Tired of holding it together.
Tired of feeling like you can’t fall apart.
Tired of being the calm one when your insides are anything but calm.
It’s not that you want to stop caring… you just want to stop carrying so much.
And maybe, deep down, you’re wondering what it would feel like to be taken care of for once.
When strength becomes survival
Sometimes “high-functioning” is just another word for “running on adrenaline.”
You’ve learned how to stay busy so you don’t have to slow down.
You’ve learned how to smile when you’re breaking inside.
You’ve learned how to earn rest by overextending yourself first.
It’s not because you’re broken.
It’s because your nervous system has learned that being needed feels safer than being vulnerable.
Healing doesn’t mean becoming less strong.
It means learning that strength and softness can coexist.
That rest doesn’t make you weak.
That you can still be reliable….. and human.
Healing might look like:
Saying “I need help” before you collapse.
Letting someone else hold space for you.
Trusting that your worth isn’t tied to what you produce or fix.
You don’t have to earn care. You deserve it just by being here.
A gentle reminder
You don’t have to keep holding it all together alone.
Therapy can help you find steadier ground… the kind that doesn’t rely on overfunctioning to feel safe.
If this feels familiar, let’s talk about what healing might look like for you.